How to Use a Consent Sheet

A step-by-step guide to creating, negotiating, and finalizing agreements

Continuing from the Example Conversation, Luna and Nova are ready to create their first consent sheet together. Follow along to see how the feature works.

Step 1: Starting a Consent Sheet

Luna initiates a new consent sheet from their conversation.

Okay, I'm going to start a consent sheet for us. You'll see it appear in our conversation.
2:50 PM
Luna started a new consent sheet

Scene Negotiation

Negotiate and consent with Nova

No items yet. Click the button above to add items to negotiate.

The Add Button: This single button is how you add items to negotiate. Click it to search for preferences or type a custom item name.

Step 2: Adding Items

Luna clicks the "Add Item to Negotiate" button and searches for their first item.

Luna added "Android/Robot Play" to the consent sheet

Android/Robot Play

Pending
Your Response:
Nova's Response:
Pending
💬 Discussion
Luna 2:52 PM
I'd love to try a simple android activation scene. Let me know what you think!
Response Options:
  • Yes - I consent to including this
  • Negotiate - I want to discuss conditions
  • No - I don't consent to this

Step 3: Both Partners Respond

Luna clicks "Yes" and Nova responds with "Negotiate" to discuss specifics.

Luna responded "Yes" to Android/Robot Play
Nova responded "Negotiate" to Android/Robot Play

Android/Robot Play

Negotiating
Your Response:
Nova's Response:
Negotiate
Their note: I'm interested but want to make sure we keep it verbal only for now - no physical stuff yet.
💬 Discussion
Luna 2:52 PM
I'd love to try a simple android activation scene. Let me know what you think!
Nova 2:55 PM
I'm excited to try this! Just want to clarify - verbal commands only for this first time?
Luna 2:56 PM
Absolutely! This will be entirely verbal/text-based. No physical contact at all. I'll add that as a separate item to make it official.
Discussion Threads: Each item has its own discussion thread. This keeps conversations organized and creates a record of what you negotiated.

Step 4: Reaching Agreement

After discussion, Nova changes their response to "Yes" and the item shows as "Agreed".

Nova changed response to "Yes" for Android/Robot Play

Android/Robot Play

Agreed
Your Response:
Nova's Response:
Yes
Both agreed! Ready to lock in this item.

Step 5: The Complete Consent Sheet

Luna adds more items including safety protocols. Here's the full sheet ready to finalize.

Scene Activities

Android/Robot Play

Agreed
Luna: Yes ✓ Nova: Yes ✓

Voice/Speech Control (simple phrases only)

Agreed
Luna: Yes ✓ Nova: Yes ✓

Verbal commands only - no physical contact

Agreed
Luna: Yes ✓ Nova: Yes ✓

Safety Protocols

Safeword: "Full system shutdown"

Agreed
Luna: Yes ✓ Nova: Yes ✓

Check-in phrase: "Error - does not compute"

Agreed
Luna: Yes ✓ Nova: Yes ✓

Scene length: 20-30 minutes, debrief after

Agreed
Luna: Yes ✓ Nova: Yes ✓

Step 6: Finalized Agreement

Both partners click "Lock In" and the agreement is finalized.

Luna finalized the consent sheet
Nova finalized the consent sheet
N
This is great - I feel so much clearer about what we're doing! When should we try our first scene?
3:15 PM
How about this weekend? We can review the consent sheet right before to refresh our memory on what we agreed to.
3:16 PM

Android/Robot Play

🔒 Finalized
🔒 Locked: Both agreed
Remember: A finalized consent sheet documents your agreement, but consent can always be withdrawn at any time. The document supports communication - it doesn't replace it.

Quick Reference

Status Colors

Pending Waiting for responses
Negotiating Discussion in progress
Agreed Both said Yes
🔒 Finalized Locked in

Tips for Good Consent Sheets

Be specific

"Hand holding only" is clearer than "light touching"

Include safety

Safewords and aftercare aren't optional extras

Use discussions

Talk through "Negotiate" items thoroughly

Review before play

Re-read your agreement right before the scene